So, my husband and I have come to the conclusion after being foster parents for over 13 months now, that we’re not easy to be friends with anymore. We used to be! We would invite friends over all of the time and we’d have lovely get togethers where the adults would hang out in one room and the kids would all play outside. The two or three families would eat pizza, play board games, watch movies, and swim together. We would hang out late into the night, well past our children’s bedtimes and when it was all said and done nobody really wanted to leave, but at about midnight they’d have to, so that they could all wake up the next morning and not be grouchy. We’d walk our friends to their cars promising to do it all over again next weekend and we’d all be sad that it was over.
Um… that is a thing of the past! It wasn’t on purpose. We didn’t try to run our friends off. It just sort of happened. There are still two families that have stuck by us through our growing pains of becoming a family of seven. They still come over. We still play and swim and eat together, but I wouldn’t necessarily say that it is “easy” anymore. There is usually yelling and some crying. Kids accidentally get hurt. Children are always throwing things and someone inevitable will get bit. Yes, I said it… they will get bit. It is horrible to admit, but we just aren’t that picture perfect family anymore. We don’t party into the night because we have babies that have a strict schedule to keep unless we want all chaos to break loose for the next several days. Nobody really stays much past 8 o’clock anymore. Everyone starts to leave and as they do a part of me is sad. We’ve lost something. We’ve lost the ability to be “easy” friends. We just aren’t.
Sometimes, I mope around about it for a while. I complain that we don’t have any friends that like us anymore. I feel sorry for myself for a little while and then I realize something. I WOULD NOT CHANGE OUR “NEW NORMAL” FOR ANYTHING. So what if we aren’t easy to be around anymore. I don’t want to be easy! I want to be us. I want to be the family that we are now. I don’t know how long it will last. Little Man and Baby Girl’s cases are nowhere close to being over, so it could be a while or something could happen tomorrow to change everything. All I know is that I love our new family. We’re a little rough around the edges. We are sometimes difficult to be around because of all the chaos, but we’re a family and I wouldn’t have it any other way!
Remember when I wrote that blog post a couple months back about 44 things to do while my soldier is gone? Well, today I re-read the blog post and guess what? My soldier has been gone only 1/3 of the time that he will be gone and yet my kiddos and I have already done 22 of the 44 things that we planned on doing! That’s half! How awesome is that? So, yay for us!
We went to the drive-in. Um, CRAZY NIGHT! But, seriously I am SO glad that we did that! We may have been the loudest truck there with my five kiddos switching seats every ten seconds and calling, “Pass the popcorn,” loud enough for the entire drive-in to hear us, but it was a BLAST!
We visited the beach! SO GLAD WE DID THAT TOO! I love the beach, it is my happy place! My sister-in-law came to visit and we took five kiddos, two chairs, five buckets and shovels, snacks, drinks, diapers, towels, shoes, toys, and a camera to the beach and made it out alive and still ready to do it again someday! Success!
I teach my daughter’s Girl’s In Action class at church almost every Wednesday night and LOVE IT! Being with her and her friends and teaching them about missions is a joy!
I’ve taken the babies on walks at the park, watched my oldest play soccer and basketball, taken tons of photos of everything we do and so much more! I even signed my son up for drum lessons and that wasn’t even on the list!
So, three months down, six more months to go and only 22 more things to check off my list and then my soldier will be home!
Thanksgiving was awesome this year! The kids and I spent time together and pretty much did “nothing” all day long. We ate what we wanted, played games, took naps, and seriously just hung out all day! We missed our Daddy very much as he is still in Afghanistan, but we did get to talk to him today and he is safe for tonight. Now the kiddos and I are all ready to snuggle up in our warm comfy beds. The weather has cooled down a bit and it is on night’s like this one that I love to light the fire and drink hot apple cider while I catch up on reading my favorite blogs. I hope your Thanksgiving was all that you hoped for and that you spent time with those you love!
What does it take to go to summer camp with a family of seven???
21 pairs of shoes
5 sleeping bags
3 digital cameras
2 boxes of diapers
2 boxes of baby wipes
1 case of bottled water
Sippy cups, bottles, goggles, Bibles, medicines, snacks, etc……
1 Chevy Suburban filled to the max!
Good thing we’ll only be gone for 3 days!